An Online Presence

Your online presence is more watched than ever. Anyone and everyone could be watching. There’s some important things to keep in mind as a member of the pup/pet play community, the same as being a common person of society.

When it comes to having an online presence, the most overrated rule is also the most underrated: absolutely nothing you put on the internet is private. But how can that be? You have privacy settings and a secure password! True. But even your trusted connections can share something you posted or have their own privacy compromised. Additionally, not all password failsafes are created equally. So only share what you are prepared to have the rest of the world see. Remember, your actions can come back to haunt you.

This applies for others as well. If you see a post where you might question the subject's representation, consider bringing it to their attention. Don't share it! If you look out for others online, they may someday help you out too. 

Be smart about who you connect with online, especially if you’re not sure who they are. They might not be who they want you to thin they are. We’ve all clicked the “connect/friend/accept” button for someone we’ve never known a day of our lives. Sometimes they have 100 mutual connections, sometimes they have 0. However, that tells you nothing about the likelihood of you hitting it off or their intentions. Friend people you know and don’t expect a welcome wagon with every network connection you make. 

Concerned about how your second cousin twice removed found your “not so family friendly profile?” Keep in mind that not all networks are closed. Disclosing your personal attributes (such as phone number, current city, high school, college, past residence, place of employment, professional email, and parts of your actual name) can be used to filter and lead others to you. That doesn’t mean you shouldn’t share anything about your past or present, but consider limiting how much of yourself out there. Some personal stuff is worth keeping...well...personal!

Don’t know if that picture you want to post shows a little too much skin? (Assuming you haven’t been tempted yet, you’ve probably been there too.) Not all social media platforms view lewd content as ideal for their platform. As instantaneous as it may seem, content definition algorithms can do a quick spot check before permitting a digital upload. Other algorithms take longer to spot potentially inappropriate content. (Or maybe that person with 100 mutual connections you added doesn’t share your view of appropriate content.) No matter the circumstance, once those posts are flagged, they are reviewed by the service provider and can prompt the content to be removed, flag a user, or result in account deactivation. Point is, know which of your social media providers accept PG vs “tasteful nudes.”

So now that you got flagged for that picture that showed a little too much skin... Consider revisiting your privacy settings and revising your list of connections for that account. Reviewing your privacy settings on a regular basis will give you have a better understanding of how to manage your privacy. If someone is reporting your content online, do yourself a favor and don’t fret over figuring out who it was, just know that there’s a better chance of it having been a complete stranger rather than someone you actually know.

You will see a lot of people doing a lot of things online, some of which are doing the same things as others. Do not, do not, DO NOT feel like you need to give into peer pressure or online demands. There is no obligatory Monday selfie or weekly pup-bod picture requirement. Nor do you have to respond to every message within minutes of receiving. Make your online experience something that makes you happy and is conducive to your life. Make others happy by just being polite and respectful.

Even people that you’re nice to can end up being bullies. If you feel bullied, don’t bully back. Let bullies show their true colors to anyone and everyone they choose. They won’t sustain enough connections to keep themselves around very long.

Struggling to keep your identity by using your scene name as your profile name? That’s because no one is actually named Pupper, Alphadawg, or betapup. Social networks, like Facebook, is quick to find name irregularities. Be unique with your online name but not so unique that you draw too much attention to yourself. 

It might seem like there’s a lot of do’s and don’ts to maintaining an online presence, but pup/pet play aside, it's more common sense than anything.